Twenty seven, twenty eight

Sites like Facebook are a good way to gather some sort of personal statistics based on the number of people you actually know on there. You can also keep track of predictions, such as the one made by my philosophy teacher when I was 18 and about to leave high school.

After spending a year teaching us the basics of thinking in depth using the logical side of our brains, the philosophy teacher ended his last lesson with a gloomy, dismissive outlook. He claimed we'd all have forgotten what we'd learned by the time we hit 25. By then, he claimed, all of us would be married with babies or careers to obsess over. That was the fate that awaited us all, he said. No escape. Every student in the class protested loudly at that point, accusing him of stereotyping people without knowing any better. I was petrified that his outlook could be right, somehow, but by then my life had turned upside down so abruptly that I also knew there had to be some exceptions to that rule of conformity.

"There are exceptions," I told my teacher, who sneered back at me dismissively. "No, really," I insisted, "There are always exceptions to rules, come on." He looked at me again and shrugged unwillingly. "Yes, there can be one or two, but no more than that," he said. He was the only teacher who knew me a bit better than anyone else in that school, which I'd joined for my last year of high school out of the blue a few weeks after the first term had already started.

The reason he knew a bit more about me was down to the fact that he was also my headteacher. When I started bunking off school and not attending certain classes (Latin and History) he was made aware of my repeated absences and confronted me one day after his lesson to threaten me with disciplinary action. That day wasn't a good day for me mood-wise, I'd tried calling my mother, but she wasn't answering, so all sorts of fatalistic scenarios were dancing inside my head by then (I lived alone in a foreign city where my new school happened to be but no one knew that apart from me and one girl I'd made friends with by then). As he threatened me, I got angry and words began to flood out of my mouth - how much I didn't care, because it was hard enough to find the motivation to go to school at all when you were accountable to virtually nobody. It's not that I didn't want to go to history class, it's just that the lessons were always so late in the afternoon that by then the temptation to just leave was too great to resist. As for Latin, I couldn't stand the teacher, so why I should I force myself to endure it when I can simply not attend the class? All I had to do is keep walking past the classroom and leave school grounds. It was too simple and easy not to do it. And once you've done it once, it gets easier and easier because you realise no one is doing anything about it. Nobody is actually stopping you, because nobody can ever stop you in anything except yourself.

The teacher stopped threatening me and sort of blinked in surprise, saying he had no idea I was alone here. "How come you're alone in this city?" he asked, puzzled. What was I supposed to say that would be short enough to prevent the meeting from lasting a whole afternoon? I embellished my story, that's what I did, making it simpler for anyone to grasp, because even I couldn't make sense of what my life was at that point. I said: "My mother and I can't stand each other, so she sent me away to get to know some of my family over here. Unfortunately none of the family members in question live in this city, and we can't speak to one another because I don't know the language. So they dropped me off in the city with my luggage and drove off. Now I'm here."

The story seemed to have the effect expected and the teacher suddenly turned more sympathetic, no longer threatening that I 'had to attend classes, or else...", but instead urging me to 'try and attend classes' as much as I could. He also said something about how he'd assumed I was just another spoilt brat.

Anyway, to revert back to the last comments the teacher made on our last day of school with him...

Ten years have now passed, more or less, and his outlook turns out to be rather accurate, except his timing was off. Most people didn't conform completely by the time they reached 25, oh no. Modern times mean that 'clever' people now take longer to 'settle down'. They'll have spent the greater part of their 20s studying for pieces of paper that will then get them a steady foot on the ladder. Apart from a wrong timing, everything predicted seems to have materialised. And how could it not be the case? I guess it all comes down to whether you end up settling down with a career to keep you busy if that's a choice you derived for yourself. More often than not, though, people end up trapped in such settings not by choice, but according to social expectations because that's what you're expected to do. You're expected to get a good job, get married, have kids, do like everyone else is doing, basically. So you do it. Not by choice, but blindly according to what others expect and the pressure from seeing everyone else do it.

I wonder... Is it realistic to even think it's possible to lead a life derived from personal choice, or is it more likely that most will just lead a life derived from expectations? In other words, is it possible to lead a life for ourselves, or are we doomed to lead it according to others because others have ultimately become the symbol needed for our own validation?

06/08/2011

Last night, something strange happened - inside my head, I suppose. I was sitting in someone else's kitchen, reading an old newspaper going on about Amy Winehouse's death. And then someone started talking about something trivial that everyone is 'supposed' to do, and words escaped my mouth before I could even stop myself. I wanted to say how bullshit it all is, how much none of it should even EXIST, and as I started rambling about just that, I was greeted by mere silence and raised eyebrows.

At that precise moment, I never felt more alone in my own ability to see how fake this society is, and how much I am trapped in some dystopia of a world where everyone else will look at you as though you're the crazy one.

It was a mounting process, I guess. I now spend my days surrounded by people, having to bite my tongue constantly every time someone says something stupid or brainwashed... One of my greatest fears was always to lose the ability to monitor like a dictator what comes out of my mouth in front of these people... and now... now it's slipping away from me. Like a volcano, the magma is just coming out of my mouth in bursts beyond my control.

Last night, I retreated swiftly away from people before more of my desperation could be spotted. I wished so much I could close my eyes and when I'd open them again, everything would be different - this whole fucked up reality would be gone and I would finally be able to live as a real human being.

God I hate this world.

I can't cope with being among people so much. By people, I mean all the sheep. I just... I can't. It drives me nuts beyond words.

My social mask is melting down. More and more, I lose the ability to bite my tongue, but what I have to say... No one likes it. I'm an extreme-sounding person who wouldn't hurt a fly - but my words are true, perhaps not always accurate, but REAL - from a THINKING human being, not a mere shell that looks human and parrots what others say.

I hate this world SO fucking much. This asylum.

And everything is FAKE.

31/07/2011

I no longer have much time to update this place... I guess that's what happens when one is kept occupied by such things as a job.

We work more and more hours and for more and more years. In the UK alone, soon the retirement age will be pushed back up to somewhere like 70. Who the hell wants to be finally free from work when it's already time to die or watch your own body fall apart?

They say the new generations will be living longer, but can they actually predict how well these new generations will get to live past 50 years of age? Don't be fooled by the older people you see moving around today, these people had a completely different routine in general than the one now. Look, rather, at the rise in dementia, Alzeimer's, the back, joints, and overall health issues that arise before you even hit 30 because you're stuck all day, 5 days a week, in front of a screen - without even adding the extra amount of personal time spent in the same position. And let's not forget all the Frankenstein food we're now eating more and more, and whose impact is unknown in the long term.

The health Gestapo (Governments and media) tells you smoking is bad - oh my God, it could give you cancer and it is so bad it can make other people around you die, too - so you see utter MORONS with kids in the pram look down on the smoker standing next to them on the pavement as though the cigarette smoke was about to kill their offspring, yet they don't see the car fumes coming out at them 24/7. Sure, smoking is not good for one's health, but come on. If you're going to pretend to be health conscious stop being a freaking hypocrite and look around you: we already live in a hazard zone. Hell, you don't even know what it is you're eating. It could be flavoured plastic and you wouldn't know any better because, hey, the package says "real food, made from real animals".

But you know what? It's alright, we live in the best of worlds, don't we? Today's ideology sounds scarily similar to a modernised version of Leibniz's optimistic school of 'reason'.

13/07/2011

I had a couple of strange dreams last night. I only remember them because I sort of woke up briefly in between dreams and they left me with a rather unpleasant sense of 'déja-vu'.

Okay, so the first one was almost borderline funny, in a way. The dream was about me walking inside what looked like a train station and there was a stall in one corner of a large hall. At that stall was a man in a suit sitting at a simple table and there were charts stuck on the wall behind him. As I approached, the man looked like the perfect salesman but with a look about him that reminded me of 1930s types of sales people and the way they would dress, you know. Very old fashioned. As I came to stand in front of his table, he began to gesture towards the charts and a large poster next to it with a list of prices and 'offers'. What was he selling exactly? Exchange traded funds. Yeah... He was having 'sales' and was trying to convince me to go for one of his 'bundles'... But the funny part was that the man in the dream seemed to explain it really well, and I wonder where that knowledge is hiding inside my head because as soon as I woke up, I was no longer able to 'grasp' the understanding I had during the dream, if that could ever make sense.

The second dream was by far more depressing. I found myself inside an overcrowded train, so overcrowded in fact that I could barely breathe and found myself gasping for air more and more... Luckily, I managed to get off at my usual station, and began to climb the flight of stairs leading to the exit - the same way I always do in reality 5 days a week when I get back from work. But in that dream, suddenly more people began to flood the staircase, so much so that I became stuck in the crowd, absolutely unable to move... and unable to breathe. As I started gasping for air again, the walls around me started to close on me and the crowd... but then I made myself wake up before having to dream of myself being turned into a pancake.

Sometimes dreams can give a far better and accurate picture of the way you feel than any word uttered by the conscious mind.

05/07/11

This world isn't real... none of it is

I may be on the verge of becoming a solipsist. Why not? It seems to make more sense right now than anything else being touted 24/7.

Nothing can be proved. Science is just the mechanics. It does not give you reason, it does not give you feelings, it does not give you meaning. People give you meaning just by gathering - even 2 people gathering together is enough. This means minds give reason, but science cannot explain reason, it can only explain what the brain is made of.

Therefore everything is a lie. Everything is an illusion, and nothing is really real.

All of this life. An illusion.

It's a warm and sunny weather all over again. Feels like summer, eh.

Work is as hard as ever, and I'm still swimming in a sea of confusion. I also feel sad and depressed, even though it doesn't show in reality. In reality, I've always been good at pretending that all is well, so I can't really expect anyone to take any notice of it - and it's probably better that way.

I couldn't sleep last night and I hate when this happens. The heat, coupled with the load of thoughts weighing on my mind, kept me wide awake until almost midnight. The cat remained dutifully by my side, watching me with glowing silent eyes as I tossed and turned.

I just feel so sad and disappointed. I don't know what I'm supposed to do to make it all better.

I thought if I remained true to myself and acted as my self with people I care about, then it would make a difference in the way my relationship with them would develop. I guess I forgot to take into account that this could only work if the other people are willing to do just the same. That is almost never the case. People play games all the time. Or they are so emotionally disconnected that they make it impossible for me to reach out to them in their depth. Instead, they constantly put up these walls surrounded by pretence and role-play where appearance is the one thing that matters to them.

Truth be told, in a world that mostly cares only about appearance and being the 'best', being yourself without subterfuge or role-playing treachery is almost guaranteed to make you end up as the stuffed goose in the story.

People are so used to playing games in all sorts of relationships that when you happen not to play any, then you're either at risk of being dismissed as 'boring' or too easy to manipulate or figure out.

In general, the lack of care and true feelings is what gets to me the most.

Life is a funny, sadistic thing, in a way. Whatever it is you ever wanted the most, you can rest assured you'll never get it.

Bah... I'm just too sad to carry on for now.

Imagination encircles the world...

I wish I could just delve into the feeling of love... without constantly having to make room for such things as work and the mindless stress of daily chores... It would be too easy, wouldn't it?

Yes... Still, I wish I had the luxury of being able to set a big chunk of my time just indulging in the love and nothing else -as though almost nothing else really existed beyond it.

Work, competition and expectations always come into the picture... It would have made more sense if the work, no matter how useless, wasn't so enslaving in essence, requiring most of us to literally dedicate most of our time and life to it. After all, for a society to exist, we each need to put some weight in, but there is no balance, and I don't think there ever was one.

Now that I work in an office environment, I get to observe people who are quite used to such routines. They can juggle work, personal life and hobbies very well... and that's it, that's the clockwork way things are for most: get up in the morning, get crushed inside a train or bus to get to work, sit at a desk for 7 hours (without daring to take your PAID lunch break away from the desk because it looks 'lazy'), get back on said train or bus, crushed and mentally exhausted... get home and enjoy the few hours left for yourself before it's time to sleep. The trick is that when you're made to juggle both work and personal life, a big chunk of whatever time is left in the evening goes into trying to keep up with that personal life.

Where's the time for the self? Where's the time for deeper reflection? By the time the weekend comes, you're so exhausted and feeling so highly-strung that your mind desires nothing but mindless rest. Mindless entertainment and activities that allow for the mind to relax a little before the routine frenzy starts all over again 2 days later.

My job wouldn't have been so bad, if only - if only - I wasn't made to write about things so complex it makes me feel like a retard most of the time.

The routine of our modern world is almost too easy to turn into a caricature... I guess the only way one can escape it is if they're rich. Yeah, if you're rich then you have the luxury to escape. Most jobs are conceived in such ways as to prevent the majority from ever being wealthy enough to escape. I guess if everyone was rich then it would break the rotten balance of this world, and soon enough you'd end up with the 'rich' being merely average compared to the super-rich... oh, wait... I've just described capitalism at its peak, haven't I?

Oh, I don't know... Maybe I grew too accustomed to having a lot of free time to think and reflect, and now I suddenly have to lead the same hamster life as everyone else - and it's a shock to my system.

It seems the only reason I was able to develop more depth of thoughts was merely circumstancial in the end... I was just 'lucky' enough to be able to spend a lot of my time in relative social isolation while also avoiding the plague of 'busyness'.

It's good to be busy at times... in bursts, actually. But then you need the time off to reflect and take stock. This modern setting doesn't really allow it. It actually regiment our lives like the worst of dictators. It dictates everything, and you have to fit everything around its orders. You can't rest, eat, think... except when you're allowed to at very precise times.